What to do if someone you know is contemplating suicide?

 

 

Start by asking questions

 

The first step is to find out whether the person is in danger of acting on suicidal feelings. Be sensitive, but ask direct questions, such as:

 

How are you coping with what’s been happening in your life?

 

Do you ever feel like just giving up?

 

Are you thinking about dying?

 

Are you thinking about hurting yourself?

 

Are you thinking about suicide?

 

Have you thought about how you would do it?

 

Do you know when you would do it?

 

Do you have the means to do it?

 

 

Asking about suicidal thoughts or feelings won’t push someone into doing something self-destructive. In fact, offering an opportunity to talk about feelings may reduce the risk of acting on suicidal feelings.

 

Look for warning signs

 

You can’t always tell when a loved one or friend is considering suicide. But here are some common signs:

 

Talking about suicide — for example, making statements such as “I’m going to kill myself,” “I wish I were dead” or “I wish I hadn’t been born”

 

Getting the means to commit suicide, such as buying a gun or stockpiling pills

 

Withdrawing from social contact and wanting to be left alone

 

Having mood swings, such as being emotionally high one day and deeply discouraged the next

 

Being preoccupied with death, dying or violence

 

Feeling trapped or hopeless about a situation

 

Increasing use of alcohol or drugs

 

Changing normal routine, including eating or sleeping patterns

 

Doing risky or self-destructive things, such as using drugs or driving recklessly

 

Giving away belongings or getting affairs in order when there is no other logical explanation for why this is being done

 

Saying goodbye to people as if they won’t be seen again

 

Developing personality changes or being severely anxious or agitated, particularly when experiencing some of the warning signs listed above

 

Get emergency help, if needed

 

If you believe someone is in danger of committing suicide or has made a suicide attempt:

 

Don’t leave the person alone.

 

Call 911 or your local emergency number right away. Or, if you think you can do so safely, take the person to the nearest hospital emergency room yourself.

 

Try to find out if he or she is under the influence of alcohol or drugs or may have taken an overdose.

 

Tell a family member or friend right away what’s going on.

 

If a friend or family member talks or behaves in a way that makes you believe he or she might commit suicide, don’t try to handle the situation without help — get help from a trained professional as quickly as possible. The person may need to be hospitalized until the suicidal crisis has passed.

 

Information found at: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/suicide/in-depth/suicide/art-20044707